Less than an hour after sending the coming out email to her, My oldest aunt writes,
“I will always love you no matter what…It is sad to know you felt you had to keep this from us all this time….Yes, we never talked about your sexuality but hell, it’s none of our business..I think we just always knew and just never mentioned it…You are you and we love you….
I just don’t want you to get hurt anymore…You are such a Blessing to our family!…Relax, things are fine with me and Uncle J…I just don’t care much for Eli…How do you pronounce that….Love you so much…don’t worry…”
And then, 20 minutes later,
“Don’t worry about Uncle M and Aunt R…They are with you all the way!…Aunt R is going to write you she said tonight but you know how she is…Just wanted to give you Thumbs UP!!..love..C and J”
And five minutes later,
“…just another quick note…Aunt R and I said if we only were able to talk about this sooner, you would have had a much happier and supportive life…But I guess that’s part of the [our last name] Side, we just don’t discuss things…
I hope now you will be able to relax and not worry about what people say…We are all with you E and always have been…Love..C and J”
I wish I could take some of this and spread it around to the kids that don’t get to hear this form their family. I am a grown-up and don’t need this much support, I could make it with much less. I am overjoyed and sobbing at the love my family has for me, their ability to see past anything and love me no matter what. But I want to give some of this to the kids that don’t get it, the runaways, the abandoned, the kids that take too many pills and slit their wrists because their families throw them out like trash. I am a good person and I deserve this love but I don’t need it all and I want so desperately to give some of it to the kids that don’t have anyone.
Be nice to yourselves,
Your Pal Eli