I want to take a moment to thank my girlfriend K. You all know what a support and advocate she has been for me pre-surgery. To be sure, she has always been on my side, and for many trans people, no one is on their side, so I know what a lucky boy I am to have her in my life. I have always felt unfairly advantaged to call her mine, so the work she has done in keeping me healthy through this process deserves a special address.
It is important you all know:
She was the last person I saw before surgery (next to the anesthesiologist) and the first person I saw (next to the nurse) when I woke.
She set her alarm to go off every four hours overnight to give me my pain pill; she held my legs in place so I could sit up in bed to go to the bathroom.
She made my every meal (and planned a special menu for the first post-op week to ensure my food was vegan, and high in the vitamin and minerals that I would most need for quick and proper healing), and washed my every dish.
She addressed my every ache and pain, she adjusted my pillows and held my drinking water glass up so I could sip from a straw when the glass was too heavy for me to lift.
She stripped and emptied and measured the output from my drains.
She dressed me when I couldn’t do it all myself.
She reassured me when I was nervous and left me alone when I needed to rest. Every time I said her name she was there.
She changes my dressings and holds open doors for me and applies ointments and lotions and helps me dry off after a shower.
She showered with me. 😉
I would not be in the good shape I am now without her tireless help.
Thank you, my darling girl.
Be nice to yourselves, and thank those that are nice to you,
Your Pal Eli